Perfect Jem

One thing I've tried to sway my blog away from is the generic conversation of relationships. It is what everyone speaks of. The single, the lonely, the unhappy, the married, the confused souls, the scared, the heartbroken and the divorced ones all speak of it and are experts on it. Let me not even start on the Twitter and Instagram scholars and those who've just received their PhDs in social media memes and let me not forget the Facebook pastors and their holy thou art choir of "relationship goals". iJoke! Please do not take it personal. Point being here is this, everyone has their own opinion and we've all had our own experience. So what may work for you may not necessarily work for me. That brings me to the saying, "before you can love anyone you have to love yourself". Now let's be real, loving ourselves sometimes it's the hardest thing. Sometimes you may look at yourself and feel inadequate. You may look at yourself and want to se

I've been told I look really young for my age. No one has ever been able to guess my age correctly. It is only after a conversation then they'll guess the age range correctly. Hmm I can't complain, won't change anything! This got me thinking, if I was able to astral project and go back to the past and meet my younger self what would I tell her? I would love to right a lot of wrongs but then I realised a lot of these wrongs have made me wiser and stronger. I'm a big softy, don't be fooled my façade. It is just that life has taught me to be brave, fearless and wise now these things I would not want to lose. Would I loved to have learnt it differently and in a less painful way? Yes, definitely, but sometimes lessons leave scars which serve as reminders of triumphs. Scars show healing, restoration and progression embrace them. Nonetheless if I did meet my younger 18 year old self these are the 11 things I'll tell her. 1) Humble yourself, you don't nee

My love journey I love because I want to love. A conscious effort to love, to stay right and display love from my depths, attempting to truly grasp what unconditional love is all about. I love because I love to love. The thing about my love is that it's MY love. It's not dependant on your actions, speech nor your mood. I love my love. I love because I've matured enough to understand that even if you withdraw yourself from me and chose to not speak to me, even if friendship deteriorate. Even if you change, I cease not to love neither is my love for you weakened. For my love is not dependant on anything you do or say. My love is internal. My love comes from the depths of me, it is my state of being, therefore it cannot be manipulated by exterior factors. My love comes from the deepest wells of my core and it pours through. I decided to share my love that morning I realised that this kind of love is what I needed for myself. This love is for me too. The simplicity of lo